I was reminded of my New Year’s Resolution over the weekend, when patience was the topic of Sunday’s homily at church. Back in January, I wrote about my mantra of “Less Hurry. Less Worry” and this passage (from a presentation I attended last year) is especially relevant for this time of year:
Life is a series of sprints and there’s a lot of rushing around. Downtime is a necessary time to re-charge to be able to bring energy to each “sprint” or challenge you may face.
We are all rushing and hurrying like crazy in preparation for the holidays. There is a lot of sprinting and stress that takes much of the joy away from this season. Similarly, I feel like there has been a lot of sprinting going on this week, re-grouping after being out of town for Thanksgiving and even just hitting the save button on this post SEVERAL times before having a bigger chunk of time to come back to it. It’s a whole lot of hurry, hurry, hurry. And all that hurrying can make me feel impatient!
Am I More Patient this Year?
Overall throughout the last year, I feel less hurried and at times more patient. However, I probably should ask my family if they would agree with that statement. I still can feel a tendency to over-multi-task instead of focusing on what’s most important at this one point in time. Being conscious of un-productive multi-tasking is the first step, right?
Some patience has been learned through schedule changes as of late. My husband has changed jobs and increased his commute, leaving me to fly solo with the kids in the morning. Instead of thinking he’s around to help (or not), I know it’s all me, so I have become more patient with my kids in the morning. Truthfully, we’ve also had several months of the school year under our belt, so they are also more adjusted to the weekly school routine too. Together we can help each other in the mornings.
The Waiting REALLY is the Hardest Part
As was mentioned in church on Sunday, patience is desperately needed this time of year. Our deacon showed pictures of holiday travel with LONG lines. Shopping on Black Friday or any holiday shopping can bring a LONG line. There’s a lot of waiting, and we all hate that, right?!
Today while waiting in line at a craft store, I was amused by a mom with two kids in front of me for a few reasons. First, I remember those days of shopping with a toddler and an infant all too well (see The BEST Line(s) to get out of a toy store). Now I am just the “older” mom whose kids are now in school (well, some of the time, anyway)! I sometimes share, “I know what you’re going through” lines of encouragement because I too remember those kind people who did the same to me a few years back. This conversation was just last year! Second, the older toddler was saying “bye, bye.” When I observed her more closely, she was pointing at things and saying, “buy, buy!” I laughed out loud and commented on this to her mom. Too funny, right? In this moment of waiting and being patient, I was able to engage with the party in front of me instead of being grumpy and sitting on my smartphone.
Ways to be more Patient to Make Waiting Easier
One phrase that comes up in this season of Advent is “waiting in joyful anticipation,” and I am reminded of the symbols and traditions that we use to help us wait – things like Advent calendars, Christmas Countdowns, or lighting candles on the Advent Wreath. This year we are lighting candles on a salt dough wreath that my daughter made in her religious education class. She feels so proud of it, and there is something very special about lighting a candle and enjoying a family dinner together. It makes us slow down a bit, and we look forward to lighting the next candle. Each day in December, we’ll change the Christmas countdown. Each week we’ll light another candle, helping us track the passage of time, which makes the waiting for Christmas a bit easier.
Is the season trying your patience? How do you handle waiting this time of year? Best wishes for some time to slow down, relax, and reflect this December!
Welcome to a Fly on the Wall group post. Today 6 bloggers are inviting you to catch a glimpse of what you’d see if you were a fly on the wall in our homes. Come on in and buzz around my house.
Here’s who you’ll be hearing from:
- Me, Mama O.
- Daddy O.
- Big Sister, age 7
- Little Brother, age 5
And here we are, enjoying the beautiful fall leaves and some amazing weather!
As overheard at the Dinner Table
Daddy O: We need to take the leaf out of the table.
Big Sister: I don’t see a leaf. (a leaf of the table to make it bigger)
Little Brother: I’m eating an army of grapes.
Daddy O. remarked one morning,”That’s a bird in a blanket. (I had wrapped up a sausage in a pumpkin pancake) My reply, “What, I thought it was pigs in a blanket.” Daddy O. explained, “No, it’s turkey sausage, so it’s a bird.”
Highlights from the Kids
Little Brother while eating ice cream: Neck freeze! (as opposed to brain freeze)
We had a great time playing at Grandma and Grandpa’s House with cousins. I made a comment on how nice they played with their cousins, and Little Brother set me straight, “They are not our cousins. They are our friends!”
At dinner recently, we were asking the kids about their favorite part of the day. My son chimed in, “My favorite part of the day was Mama.” I asked, “Well, was it something you did with mama?” His reply was precious, ” No, just Mama!” Melt my heart…I wrote about him still being my baby in this post.
Big Sister declared, “The older I get the funnier I get.” Don’t we all?!
Big Sister: Do you know what I call weeds? The flowers’ mean neighbor.
New Level of Humor in our House
One of our toy magnetic board and decorative skeleton will never be the same.
What’s Really Essential?
One evening I told him, “I declined to be part of a candle fundraiser.” He replied, “Good, we don’t use those.” I added, “Yea, and some family members now use essential oils more.” Daddy O. responded, “I’ve never understood for what or for whom oils were essential.” I laughed, “Me too. Good one!”
Burn it Now
I had my super organized BFF over, and this time we attacked my closet (after organizing toys one other time she visited). To some of my clothes she said, “Oh my, burn it now!” I highly recommend having some adult beverages while enlisting the help of a good friend to downsize your closet. Fun times and lots of laughs! Here were some of the cast-offs from that night:
More Fly on the Wall Fun
Now shoo fly, and be sure to click on these links for a peek into some other homes:
Baking In A Tornado http://www.bakinginatornado.com/
Menopausal Mother http://www.menopausalmom.com/
Spatulas on Parade http://spatulasonparade.blogspot.com/
Searching for Sanity http://singlemumplusone.blogspot.com
Dinosaur Superhero Mommy http://dinoheromommy.com/
I mean this literally and figuratively, especially with what is going on in today’s world. I do wish I could keep my kids safe in a bubble, especially while they are young. I know that this is not possible, as bubbles will break far too easily. And rightfully so, for I know that they will need to learn and grow beyond the “safe” perimeter that my husband and I establish throughout their lives. But still…doesn’t it sound so nice?!
Here’s the visual to go along with it – my kids actually experienced being encased by a bubble-tube at a recent visit to a children’s museum in Rockford, Illinois. It was so cool that I even had to try it out!