Some more experienced moms share some of their parenting wisdom. I am all ears with moms (& dads) of older kids. They seem so relaxed and calm as I may be anxiously expressing concern about xyz for my 2 or 4 year old. One common theme is how quickly time passes. Certain phases, such as growling in my oldest’s case, will pass in time. More experienced parents know this all too well.
In one recent email exchange about Fly on the Wall with an awesome blogger who writes at Baking in a Tornado and has a high school senior soon to leave for college and another college-age son, I commented that I can’t imagine what it must feel like to have children at that stage, since it seems SO far off for my family. In response to my comment, she wrote, “Don’t blink!”
And it’s so true…just in the past few months, I’ve noticed some big changes in my kids, as they learn and grow and become somewhat more self-sufficient (translation = a little easier for mom). Here are a few examples:
- My son gave up his pacifier after 2.5 after chucking it in the car (paci #1) and I discovered holes chewed in one (paci #2). And we were worried it would never happen!
- “I wanna be your baby,” said my son whenever he wanted to be picked up and snuggled. This happened mostly after bath time, when he wanted to be wrapped up in his towel and snuggled to dry off and warm up. Now I still pick him up from time to time, but mostly when he’s hurt and crying. I miss hearing those sweet words in his little voice.
- I noticed my 4.5 year old daughter teaching my son how to go down the stairs outside our house by himself. It was a sweet moment! I don’t always have to hold his hand when he goes down those stairs anymore, but I gladly will whenever he asks.
- My daughter is becoming more and more comfortable around extended family. At a recent brunch, she was hugging and talking with her great aunts and uncles. A FAR improvement from last year, when she growled at people and would cling to our legs.
- Another sweet sibling story – big sister will sometimes help little brother buckle-up (both the big buckle and the smaller ones). She can even tighten the buckle for him, though I have to double check her work. One I didn’t, and my son ended up going for a short car ride with only the big buckle secured. Oops…they both still need mom after all!
- Looking back at pictures I realize how BIG they’ve grown. It’s often when someone else makes a comment on them, making me take a closer look and compare pictures to a few months ago. Oh yeah…they are losing that baby-look and moving to the little kid-look. (sob. sob.)
In all of this, I want the emphasis to stay on little! My kids ARE little – even if it will be for a short while. I can hardly believe big sister will be starting 4 year old kindergarten in fall. Little brother and I will have some one on one time when she’s in her half day class. I’m looking forward to all that lies ahead, while trying my best to soak up the joy and entertainment that each day brings with them (and getting all emotional as I write this post).
The biggest thing I’ve learned from parents who have been there before, is that I should worry less and simply enjoy more. I can’t think of a better lesson in parenting or life in general than that.
What have you learned from more experienced parents? Have you also been told, “Don’t Blink?”
Cheers for Friday and a long Memorial Day weekend! Make it a memorable one!