Random Thoughts on Life AC (After Children)

The lack of naps today is really cramping my style – specifically my desire to blog and be on the computer uninterrupted. Given my circumstances, this is the best, quick, random post that I can offer today.  It’s been hanging out in my drafts for sometime, so I figured I’d just let it free.

After countless diaper changes, blow-outs, leaks, wipes and smells, I HAVE NO DESIRE to play with BROWN PlayDoh.  Please discontinue this color, or make it go missing in my house.

I am pretty much immune to all bodily fluids having successfully potty trained one child, getting spit up on, puked on, peed & pooped on.  It can all be cleaned up!

It is so nice to just go into a store by yourself – no one else to get out of car seats, haul in the store, or coerce back into the car.  Being alone is so easy now, and I enjoy it….for awhile until I start missing my family!

When my kids fall asleep in the car, and I have errands to run, I would LOVE to have a drive thru for Target and the grocery store.  I could just hand over my list to a friendly store associate, and he or she could quickly run around the store, gather my things, and return with a portable charge card thing-a-ma-bob, so I could pay when they delivered everything to my car.  My kids would continue to sleep peacefully through all of this.  A true win-win!

Am I ADD? Is being around my children shortening MY attention span, as I watch them go from one thing to the next?

I never realized how LONG it can take to get three people ready (myself included) and out the door, dressed in full winter gear, fed, teeth brushed, bag packed for our outing.  Today we went swimming and it took FOREVER to leave our house and the locker room – possibly longer than we even swam! Ugh…

I have no patience for an adult being late (without having any kids to distract you).  C’mon adults, it’s called planning and time management!

I appreciate the little things more – a dinner without milk getting spilled all over the floor, kids putting away their dishes in the dishwasher without too much prodding, quality sleep night after night, fewer timeouts.  This parenting thing CAN and IS getting easier at times, and we celebrate the successes as a family!

So Excited!

I’ve been excited lately, planning and prepping for my daughter’s fourth birthday party.  And thanks to Zumba class yesterday, I have some songs in my head.  Sing it Tina.

Another happy song –

One more song that we all had fun dancing to at Zumba (that is a little more current).

As you may have noticed from the songs above, I’ve been really happy, high energy, and excited.  I celebrated a birthday (not one of any major milestone), and LOVED that Daddy O. took a half day to prepare one of our favorite meals – lemon / ginger shrimp & asparagus pasta.  The kids and him made peanut butter frosting together with way too much of their saliva in it to share the final peanut butter frosted brownies with anyone else (and I’m okay with NOT sharing those – yum).  Most of all, I loved seeing my kids excitement for my birthday: seeing their little faces glow as they sang happy birthday, gave me big hugs and kisses, and even when my daughter tried guessing my age (her first guess was 50….luckily I was not phased by this, as she can really only count to 20).

Having had such a wonderful birthday myself, when I was really concentrating on planning for my daughter’s birthday all month long, I am very excited to just wrap up the final details, do some cooking and baking, and celebrate how far my daughter has come in four years with our family.

As I mentioned in a previous post called Separation Celebration, it is so rewarding to see and experience your child coming into his or her own.

My firstborn is growing up for sure!

She is loving preschool, no longer growls at strangers (though we’re still working on exchanging some pleasantries), is a fish in her swimming class, and has taken to singing and enjoying our dance parties.  I couldn’t be prouder, and am excited to see her grow and learn more to prepare for 4K next fall.

This parenting gig DOES get easier, and I’ve been so happy to move beyond some of the potty training horror stories, and other toddler drama, and simply have fun with my kids.  Then I remember that my son is only two, so I’ll have more toddler drama in store just when I least expect it.

Tonight on a date night (reason to be happy #1001), I’ll raise a glass with Daddy O. to a fun party this weekend and to more joys of parenting ahead.  Cheers & Happy Friday!

 

I’m OVER Halloween (and it’s not even HERE yet)!

Yes, I said it.  I’m over Halloween. I was over Halloween this weekend actually.

We have already been celebrating this holiday a few times already.

Day 1: Thursday night was Trick or Treat downtown.  Here are probably the two best pictures I will get from Halloween this year:

smiling big sister dressed as a kitty

One happy, cute kitty

Little brother dressed as a tiger

Little brother still figuring out trick or treat

Dressed in multiple layers (as Wisconsin trick or treat MUST), we met friends and walked downtown to trick or treat at a few businesses.  It was great to get out of the wagon, walk inside & warm up a bit.  After about an hour, we took a break at the Italian bakery for dinner.  This is when big sister started to be “over” Halloween as well, when the kitty ears came off.  Crazy, sugar high ensues before bedtime.  Parents consume wine thereafter.

Day 2: Friday we wanted to show off our Halloween costumes to Grandma & Grandpa and Great Grandma.  My daughter refused to put her kitty costume on.  “It’s not Halloween yet.”

Hmm…hard to argue with her, so I let her be (though I DID ask again when visiting Great Grandma, and got a grunt / no in return).

Day 3: More trick or treat with our cousins.  Big sister kept her kitty ears on for about 5 minutes. After this, she was an earless kitty.

saturday trick or treat

Little brother refused to get out of the stroller, so he enjoyed “valet” trick or treat.  Luckily the treat-givers were typically sitting in their driveway, so it made it easy for Daddy O. to drive straight to the candy.  Lucky little guy!

valet trick or treat

Little brother not getting up to trick or treat, saying “I’m good here.”

More crazyness occurs after getting home (despite our 1 piece of candy only rule).  Little brother melts down, wanting to sleep with his ghost candy bag.  More wine after surviving!

Day 4: Sunday – no Halloween costumes or trick or treat today.  Only a little drama involving candy.  Big sister finds a feather in her Halloween candy and calls it the “best treasure of all.”  Hmm..maybe we should hand out feathers instead of candy?We carve pumpkins and roast pumpkin seeds that actually taste good – really good!

Day 5: Pre-school field trip – Big sister wants to change her costume to last year’s costume – a puppy ghost.

puppy ghost costume

Big sister as a Puppy Ghost in 2012

We somehow convince her to just be a kitty. Ears apparently stay on when she sees her friends in costume. Kids took a field trip to an area nursing home and sang Halloween songs.  It apparently was a HUGE hit.  More candy came home! There was drama at dinner (as to be expected) over what candy to have for dessert (or dinnertime bonus as we call it in our house).  More wine anyone?

With only ONE more day of official costume wearing and Halloween festivities, I am READY for Halloween to be over.  Until then, I’ll grab a candy bar to help me cope!

How do you feel about Halloween and multiple celebrations?  Do your kids try to change costumes mid-stream like mine?  Have a Happy Halloween!

A First: Mom Put in “Time Out!”

It’s true.

I was given a “time out” by my pre-schooler last night.  I can’t sneak anything by her anymore! Geez!

Daddy O. was commenting on the chaos I created in the kitchen in order to lovingly prepare a pasta salad with olives, carrots, cheese & salami.  He was the one to clean it up, so I asked him if he would have preferred not to have such a delicious pasta salad. As I made that comment, I innocently gave him a swat on the tush.

My daughter had clear sight of my butt-smack, and almost instantly said, “Mom, no hitting. You get a time-out.”

Daddy O., enjoying this a little too much, said, “Okay Mama, it’s one minute for each year old you are.”

I replied, “Can I please have 30-some minutes of time to myself?  Can I bring a book?”  Can you say paradise?!

We compromised, and I was given a two-minute time-out in the corner.  Daddy O. and big sister seemed to savor watching me as I served time as a consequence for choosing to hit.

Finally the oven timer buzz, and I was allowed out of time-out.  I then gave Daddy O. a hug and a smooch, and told him I was sorry.  I will try to make better decisions next time (or at least wait until the kids are in bed to deliver butt-smacks).

Have you been put in time-out by your kids?  I’d love to hear about it!

Talking with a Toddler and a Pre-schooler

Over the weekend I read The Sadder But Wiser Girl’s Weekly Wrap Up, and the Fly on the Wall post reminded me that I should share some of the random things that I hear around my own house. If you haven’t checked out Sarah’s blog, you should! She will make you laugh, sing, dance, and nod your head in agreement!

Okay – onto talking with a toddler and a pre-schooler.  Big sister is just past 3.5 and little brother is quickly approaching age 2. They are talkative and funny, surprising me almost daily in their sweet little voices:

Big sister says

  • “Big sisters don’t like to be copied.”  As a younger sister, I’m SURE my big sister said this to me numerous times.  No truer words have been spoken my dear.  I told her that her brother only copies her because he loves her, but she was not buying that.
  • “I am old enough for school now.”  She said this when I went back to work at 3.5, so the transition went well!  YES!
  • Daddy O – “Kids stop harassing your mother.”Big sister – “But we harass Mom because we love her.” Awh, thanks?!

Little Brother says

  • At 20 months, “Wear the orange one.” when helping me pick out his clothes.
  • “Mama come here.”  Sometimes he screams this!
  • “Be right back. Just a second.”
  • He took my book (at the time it was “Mad Women: The other side of life on Madison Avenue in the ’60’s and beyond” by Jane Maas), turning the pages, told me, “It says no wrestling.”  Given how much I say that, I can understand why he thinks my book would say that!
  • “Sumo (our cat) puked.”  This is a common occurrence in our house, but he really had me convinced that she HAD puked again…somewhere. Fortunately, he was wrong!

Now picture these cuties below saying these phrases.  No wonder why they crack me up!

Big sister, Mama O, Daddy O, and Little Brother

The best family picture we’ve had in a LONG time!

Thank you, dear children, for blessing our house with a lot of laughter and love!  I am sure you will continue to surprise us with the creative statements and questions that will pass your lips.

For more words from Big Sister, read Choose Your Words Carefully.

I’ve been keeping track of the crazy things my kids say by using notes on my tablet (and reviewing some Facebook status updates).  How do you record and remember what your kids say?

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